@kdfrawg intersectionality 101 i guess! probably the issues i had with abusive childhood and previous partners are a bigger thing that might curtail things than the trans thing, honestly
// @indigo
@kdfrawg part of the difficulty is, what if it's a coworker who you're not sure whether to pursue or not? if you're ambivalent about the whole thing anyway, is it worth bringing up? if i'm actually interested though, i guess it's me being timid and avoiding doing anything or intimacy.
// @indigo
@thedan84 it sounds like a reasonably good solution- SS will do the heavy lifting, and i hear it's easy to use