@kdfrawg that's for sure. not so long ago there was this guy whinging about trans women and fat women hitting on him on tinder. Except he was 'swiping right' (indicating his interest) on everyone the algorithm matched him with, so it's not like it wasn't entirely his fault for being a fucking idiot. then went on and on about how it was his right to complain about women with penises or something. I know most people are a bit more polite than that, lol. But can I really fault someone for having a preference for a type of genitalia (broad categories as opposed to the aesthetic appearance - i think people who get weirded out by how a vulva or penis looks are stupid)? probably not. i mean, i'm already limited by who's interested in me because of race, professional category, that i have cats, my personality, blah blah, so I guess it's just another one of those things. though at the moment i'm too paralysed to make a move on anyone in case they think me hitting on them is awful because i'm trans O_o